Anger is a portal to Ecstasy

All emotions are a portal to Ecstasy and to the Divine within. 

We have been taught that when we feel an emotion, we are supposed to ‘regulate’ ourselves and try and calm the fuck down. 

But this is not the point of our emotions. 

Our human experience is not meant to be calmed and us live ‘flatlined’.

We are supposed to FEEL. 

Yesterday, in a client session, anger came up. 

Have you ever judged your anger and made it bad or wrong?

Try to talk calmly to your partner so that you don’t trigger them. 

Or felt terrible because you feel so angry.

If you keep blocking your anger and burying it down. 

You will never get what you deeply desire.

More intimacy, connection, and love. 

And to be reconnected to your erotic life force.

Your sexual desire.

Your full power. 

If you can fully feel your emotions, they will actually pass through in 90 seconds. But we don’t do this. 

We push them down. 

Try to regulate ourselves. 

Not be too much. 

Too emotional.

When you shut down the emotions that you might class as negative you also reduce how much joy and good emotions you feel too. 

And you can’t desire your partner fully and honestly if you have buried emotions. 

It’s like a concrete wall that is up and the only way through is by feeling. 

The way I see it, life holds an electric cattle prod. 

At times, we get stung by that cattle prod. 

And electric sensations course through our bodies. 

This is our emotional reaction. 

To have the amazing experience of the ecstatic and orgasmic nature of emotions, you have to put the mind's narrative to one side for a moment. 

And come into the body. 

When you feel the sensations rushing, pulsing. 

Hot. Cold. Tingles. 

There is no doubt that they feel good. 

Most of the time when we feel an emotion we try to discharge the feeling. 

Some people will shout at others to do so. 

Or break things. 

Hit pillows. 

Scream. 

All these things might get rid of the anger. 

You also might temporarily feel good as it releases endorphins. 

That’s why there was a whole movement of cathartic release in the 70’s, which some people still practice. But cathartic release is not healing, or empowering in the end. 

And you get addicted to the endorphins, so it becomes a habit. 

Often a very toxic habit for those around you. 

When you discharge emotions you miss out on the whole point.

Anger is not something to be ‘released’. 

Why would you want to get rid of your life force when you could open to more of it instead? 

In each emotion is an opportunity to reclaim lost fragments of power and life force. 

And expand your capacity to feel more alive! 

Joy, Pleasure, Eros - are all on the other side of feeling everything. 

When you embrace all of who you are, and stop trying to dampen down your emotions you get to experience yourself in your Divine nature. 

That’s what the Tibetan Buddhists have been doing for thousands of years.

Transmuting ‘negative’ emotions back into power, divinity and life force. 

You might think that anger transmuted is calm. It’s not. It’s flames of wisdom. Still fiery. But now coming from the Divine part of your nature, not your small self or ego. 

For me, the first time I felt my anger fully my body was freed into sensuality, softness and flow. 

I felt so free. I found myself dancing and my limbs were flowing and instead of the stiff, up and down dancing I’d done for years 

I felt like a woman. 

I realised my anger was armour, and those women on the other side of the room looked so feminine because they didn’t have that armour on. 

When you embrace your emotions. 

You meet all of who you are. Your True Self. The unarmoured, powerful, Divine, feminine within. 

In Somatic sessions, I guide you through a process that helps you embrace all of who you are. 

You might discover, as my client did yesterday, that her anger looks like fire. 

It has sensations that go down into your pelvis, all the way to your fingertips and toes. 

It is rushing and moving.

When you truly feel it your spine moves upright.

Your body opens.

And it feels good. 

It might have an impulse (behaviour), that makes you want to push someone away.

And it’s good to play with your hands and see what it’s like to do this. 

I want you to embody all of your anger and stop being afraid of it harming others.

Anger only harms when you bury it, and don’t have healthy ways to embody it. 

Women often collapse into tears as they try to feel their anger. 

Because anger and sadness is often coupled together, glued together. 

Meaning it is hard to stay with your anger. 

Sadness is another way of avoiding feeling your anger. 

Of making yourself a ‘nice’ girl. And in the process, protecting you from what we all fear most: a loss of love, belonging and safety. 

Once you earn the art of feeling your emotions fully you realised there is nothing to fear. 

And what could be more amazing than saying yes! to living fully alive and in your power. 

To living a juicy turned on life. 

In my 1-1 Somatic Coaching, I help you train your body to feel it all. To love and accept all of who you are. 

​Book a free connection call here to explore working together in a private sanctuary of liberation. ​

Let’s see what happens as we start a revolution of women (and men). 

Those who embrace the fullness of their essence within the temple of their flesh. 

This is where marriages become amazing again. 

Where creative projects are birthed.

Where people stop settling and create a life of alignment. 

​With fire in my heart,

X Nina

p.s. I am working with men too now.

If you are a high-achieving brain type who wants to make your marriage amazing.

Have your wife desire you,

No longer spiral in doubt or negativity,

Feel free to book a connection call too.

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